Background on the Blog

You meet someone.  You date.  You get married.  You have babies.  This (or some variation of this) was supposed to be easy.  No one ever plans for that last step to be “have multiple miscarriages” or “spend entire savings on fertility treatments.”  That’s just not how we plan it or how it is supposed to be.  And yet, so many of us go through that.  Approximately 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage and also more than 165,000 In vitro procedures were done in the year 2012 alone (resulting in births around  1/3 of that number).  But no one talks about it; it’s not like it’s a topic to bring up at parties or proper office water cooler talk. For as much as this happens, it’s a pretty silent journey.  And it can feel so lonely.  Sometimes you feel like you are the only one (or ones if you are in a couple) going through these difficult things.

So, here is my blog.  It’s not a blog I am just going to post “woe is me” posts every day, but also, I am not going to start every day with some great inspirational and uplifting quotes that make you feel good for a minute or two.  I will tell my stories, sure, but I want YOUR stories.  I want people going through these hard times to not feel so alone.  I want your HONEST stories.  When you are feeling alone, I want you to be able to read these stories and know that others have felt the same way before and some are feeling it now.  They may not feel it reading the first story, or the next, or even the next, but my hope is that somewhere in the line, someone can read another’s story and go “Wow.  That is just how I feel.”  And I want you to have the chance to get your story out.  Not out like out the public, but out of your heart and mind, not pent up because you don’t feel like others will understand.   Some stories will be sad, some stories will be OK.  Because that’s how it is: sometimes this stuff is sad (sometimes for a really long time) but sometimes things turn out OK too.  Everyone’s story is different.  

So please, send your stories to thiswassupposedtobeeasyblog@gmail.com.  I will post your story under the name you give me.  If you want to use your real name, fine; a fake name, fine.  Whatever makes you feel comfortable.  I just want a name in case you come back with more stories or updates, and then readers who relate to you can follow you.   Please indicate to me if the story you are sending is a follow up to previous submission (so, the title to the email to me would be something like “Pam B. – Part II”.  However you want to do it.  

Finally, please forward this blogs to others.  You never know who is struggling with these situations, and who would want to tell their stories.  Send to men and women alike; men are touched by these situations too.  I want their stories.  Send it to friends and family, because (again) you may not know the people in your life that these situations have touched. 

I am not promising answers or solutions, just some solace and maybe some relief to know that you are not alone.  

I hope this helps some of you feel less alone.  I hope it helps some of you get some feelings off your chest and hearts.  I just hope this helps.